The following program is designed to allow Roper and Sons Funeral Home to better serve you during your time of loss.
If you have not already scheduled a meeting with one of our Funeral Directors, please contact us at 402-476-1225.
We understand that some of the following sections may ask for information that you do not know at this time or may need to complete at a later date. Please complete the sections to the best of your knowledge. Not all fields are required.
When a death occurs in your family, you will be faced with important tasks and decision-making during a very difficult time. You may not know what to do or when to begin making arrangements. Bearing the responsibility can be overwhelming. Remember that you are not alone. Roper and Sons Funeral Home is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year to assist you with the details and offer our guidance.
We have compiled the following list to help guide you through the steps you will need to take when a death has occurred. Your funeral director will help coordinate all of the details when you meet for an arrangement conference.
1. Notify family and friends.
- Call immediate family members first: parents, grandparents, children and siblings of the deceased.
- Do not worry about waking others. Grief researchers say those close to the deceased feel left out if they aren't told about death immediately. Although it may be difficult to do, telling others of a death is therapeutic. By saying aloud that a loved one has died, the death is confirmed in your mind—an important step in the grief process.
- Keep in mind that it is not necessary (or practical) for you to call every family member and friend. News of a death travels quickly. Rely on others to make sure everyone is notified.
2. Notify Roper and Sons Funeral Home by calling 402-476-1225. The following are some questions that we may ask when you call:
- What is the full name of the deceased?
- What is the location of the deceased (Hospital, Nursing Facility or Residence)?
- What is your name, address and telephone number?
- What is the name, address and phone number of the next-of-kin?
- Is there a pre-arranged funeral plan?
We will then set an appointment time for you to come to the funeral home to complete the details of the funeral arrangement.
We will ask you to bring in some items and information that will be necessary to complete the arrangement.
- Clothing for the deceased
- Social security number of the deceased
- The deceased's birth date and city and state of birth
- The deceased's parents’ names, including mother's maiden name
- Information about the deceased's education
- Marital status of the deceased
- Veteran's discharge papers or Claim Number
- A recent photograph of the deceased
- Pre-arrangement paperwork (if applicable)
- Cemetery lot information (if applicable)
During your arrangement meeting, with your help, your funeral director will:
- Contact your clergy.
- Decide on a time and place for the funeral or memorial service (the services may be held at the funeral home)
- Assist you in determining the number of copies of the death certificates that you will need and will order them for you
- Decide on an appropriate charity to which gifts may be made (church, hospice, library, organization, school)
- Gather obituary information, including a photo, age, place of birth, cause of death, occupation, college degrees, memberships held, military service, outstanding work and a list of survivors in the immediate family. Include the time and place of the funeral services. The funeral home will usually write the obituary and submit it to the newspaper(s)
- Select pallbearers. (People with heart or back difficulties may be named honorary pallbearers)
- Notify Social Security
Some things you will need to do or request the help of trusted friends to do in the days following a death:
- Arrange for family members and/or close friends to help with things such as
answering the door or phone.
- Keeping a careful record of visitors and flower deliveries will make it easier to thank people later on
- Coordinate the food supply in your home for the next several days
- Delegate special needs of the household, such as cleaning, food preparation, etc., to friends and family who offer their help
- Arrange for child care, if necessary
- Arrange hospitality for visiting relatives and friends
- Plan for the disposition of flowers after the funeral (to a church, hospital or rest home)
- If Social Security or other payments are deposited automatically, notify the bank of the death
- Notify insurance companies of the death
- Locate the will and notify the lawyer and executor
- Carefully check all life and casualty insurance and death benefits, including Social Security, credit union, trade union, fraternal, and military. Check on possible income for survivors from these sources
- Check promptly on all debts and installment payments, including credit cards. Some may carry insurance clauses that will cancel them. If there is to be a delay in meeting payments, consult
with creditors and ask for more time before the payments are due
- If the deceased was living alone, notify the utility companies and landlord and tell the post office where to send the mail
- Prepare a list of people to receive acknowledgments of flowers, calls, etc. Send appropriate acknowledgments, which may be a written note, printed acknowledgments, or both. Include "thank yous" to those who have given their time, as well